life isn't fair

Yesterday I got a text from Toby that I frankly am a little surprised I didn't get earlier.

"No fair that you got to see me in my wedding suit, but I don't get to see you in your dress until the wedding"

Well honey, life isn't fair, why would weddings be any different?

Yes, perhaps it isn't fair that I not only got to be there for him trying it on, but I was the one that everyone asked if I liked it. I am not sure anyone ever asked him what he thought about it.

There are a couple things other than the obvious lesson of life not being fair that he should keep in mind:

1. He is getting to wear a a light tan suit instead of a tux, no tie, and wear rainbow sandals instead of shoes. He should be counting his lucky stars.

2. I let him approve the dress I am wearing. The only thing I said was he couldn't see me in it till the wedding. Sure, I got to see him in his suit trying it on... but... well.... see the above lesson on life.

3. When he sees me in my dress that day, my hair will be done by a pro, I will have my make up perfect with fake eyelashes and nails done, and be cinched to perfection into my dress that has been altered multiple times to fit me like a glove. He will look... well pretty much like he does every day. Except with a really anxious look on his face. Guys have it so easy.

So see... life really isn't fair.

no goalie pads on the registry

I don't think I am alone in thinking that filling out the registry will be the most fun of the wedding process. You get to go around and pick out whatever you like and ask other people to buy it... what is there not to like about that!?

Well, turns out, it can be extremely draining. 

You have to try to figure out what you want, and need for the next 10 years.

Toby is going to med school... it will be 10 years before we buy ANYTHING else, so we have to make it count. 

Some of it has been really easy. Some of it, however, has us throwing our hands in the air. 

Our arch nemesis? Bedding. 

Who would have thought that picking out a duvet cover would take so much effort. Literally hours of time spent online and in stores trying to find something we can agree on. They are either too dull, or too girly, or too boyish... or just flat out butt ugly. Seriously, who designs this stuff!?

When we do seem to find something we like, without fail, it is discontinued and no longer available in the size we need. Without. Fail. 

I keep realizing there are things that we don't have on there yet. It seems to never end... and don't forget the issue I think every bride has when it comes to the registry... 

The groom who confuses the wedding gift registry with "dude I want that". 

My brother registered for rubber duckies and Pepsi just to mess with my sister-in-law when she wasn't looking. My fiance has his eyes on bigger loot. 

He keeps coming up with things he wants on the registry. Not a tool box, or drill, or some other home repair tool. He is thinking video games and goalie pads. 

Yes, goalie pads. 

There is a reason I keep the registry passwords... 

Anything but Average

Today I read an article from costofwedding.com that showed the 2012 averages for weddings. Some of the results were as follows:

The average wedding in the US costs just under $27k

The average wedding in San Diego costs well over $28k

The average wedding budget is $20k (which I guess means the average wedding goes 8k over budget).

80% of weddings happen in a church or synagogue (which is funny seeming most people don't go to church)

The average wedding guest list is 141 guests.

The average engagement is 17 months.

The average honeymoon lasts 8 days.

My conclusion... I am having anything but an average wedding.

Lets just say that without my budget weighing down the averages, the average wedding cost is probably significantly higher.

I am not getting married in a church... but I do go every Sunday.

Take the average wedding size... and double it. Then you have my wedding. So double the wedding size with about 30% of the budget. Sweet.

If I was engaged 17 months, someone would probably end up wounded. My 8 month engagement is way too long to me. I would never suggest it for God-fearing-nearing-thirty-year-olds.

Where I up the ante is my honeymoon, which will also be my first real vacation that is more than a Vegas weekend, which I have only done twice, 2 years ago. My honeymoon will be just under 2 weeks... take that pretty, pretty princess brides!