it's not cheating... it's planning...

We started our registry not long after we got engaged. We started cause it was a cold day, we had nothing else to do, and we thought it was going to be the most fun thing ever... Who doesn't want to go around stores, with a gun, and scan everything you want?

Strangely enough, it turned out to be miserable.

Don't get me wrong, at first it was a lot of fun. For about the first hour. We felt exhausted, and completely unprepared for the task. Who knew there were so many toasters to choose from?

Now we are 101 days from the wedding, and we are pretty much done (well pretty much... knives are hard!) and we are just a few weeks from the first shower. I logged onto one of our registries to check to see if we had registered for something, and I realized that eleven gifts were suddenly marked "fulfilled".

They may have just created a monster.

I suddenly started logging onto all our registries. I started reading off to Toby what we had "gotten". About half way through he tells me, "Isn't this cheating? You know what we are getting now. There is no surprise".

It's not like we don't have a list of everything we want online... I think that pretty much killed the element of surprise from the beginning.

I told him it was not cheating, it was part of planning, and I like to be well prepared.

I don't think he bought it.

Is it cheating? If you have had a wedding, did you look at your registry and scope out what you were getting? Is it kind of cheating and wrong to ask for particular items to begin with?

No matter the answer, I promise to act surprised. Now if you will excuse me, I have registries to check...